Many people learn dating techniques in order to become more attractive to the opposite sex. But those techniques won’t be effective unless you’ve done work on yourself to become happy and confident, and have an outstanding opinion of yourself.
The techniques DO work, and there is scientific evidence behind them. But they will FAIL miserably if you are needy, insecure, unconfident, have nothing going on in your life, and feel undeserving of a boyfriend or girlfriend.
You must take the time to eliminate your fears, self-doubts, and blossom into a person that naturally attracts others into your life. It makes the whole dating process a lot easier.
Below is a transcript of the video.
If you’re not happy with who you are, there is no way you’re going to find someone who is going to be your ideal partner because when you go and look for a partner, what you’re going to be doing is you’re going to be looking for certain traits and qualities in that person that you don’t have in yourself, and that you are trying to make up for.
Hi, Ed here from DateTechnician.com, teaching you how to be memorable, for social, financial, and dating success.
If you want to use the classic iceberg metaphor, then 80% of an iceberg is underwater. That solid foundation, the thing that makes it float is hidden. You can’t see it.
The thin layer of dating techniques is that top 20% of the iceberg, and that’s where a lot of people concentrate their efforts. They concentrate on learning those pick up lines, or they concentrate on the best way to text a guy to get his attention.
All the kind of articles that you read in magazines, or you learn on internet forums, because I think the reason so much of this kind of material is published is because, again, yes it does work to some extent, but it’s only in that top 20%, but also because it’s easy. It’s like a step by step process.
“If you do this, you will get the guy.”
“If you do this, you will get the girl.”
What people rarely address is to do not that outside stuff, but to work on yourself.
You need to build a strong, solid foundation. That 80% under the water, that is the thing that’s going to keep you buoyant.
Just realise that you shouldn’t be expecting the person you’re dating to make you feel whole.
When you’re dating, no matter how many techniques you use, you are always going to get rejected, you are always going to be told no, and if you don’t have that solid base, and that strong core, that strong belief in yourself, you are just going to be crushed.
I want to ask you this.
What things have you done to improve your mental state and your self confidence, and your self belief?
When you start doing this week on yourself, and you start believing in yourself, and your self confidence rises, what happens is that you attract more people into your life naturally.
When you go to a social event, people can feel that energy, they can feel that you’re just so happy with yourself and so, you’ve got that self assurance, and self belief, and it draws people to you because no longer do they feel as though you’re taking something.
You’re only giving out positive energy, fully comfortable with where you are now. Even though it’s not where you want to be, and you’re not perfect, be comfortable, allow yourself to be happy with who you are now.
If you do that, I promise you you will find way more high quality mates coming automatically into your life, which makes dating far, far easier.
Thanks for watching.