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Recommended reading

Improving your dating with women requires work. And creating amazing, authentic relationships with women requires even more work. You must continue to learn and gather knowledge in order to improve yourself, your outlook, your mindset.

When reading these books, you don’t have to agree with everything the author writes (much like the articles on this blog). I don’t agree with everything they say, but I can assimilate the information and decide what is relevant to me, fits my character, and will help me improve my situation. You should do the same.

Must Reads

The Definitive Book of Body Language: How to Read Others’ Attitudes by Their Gestures

Just buy this book already. It is jam packed with practical advice from a master of body language. Study it carefully, apply its principles, and you’ll feel as though you have a superpower – the ability to know how someone is feeling and thinking just by looking at them.

No More Mr. Nice Guy

Struggling with nice guy mental conflicts? Get this book. It’s an excellent resource, and has an entire chapter devoted to getting what you want in the bedroom. What’s not to like.

When I Say No, I Feel Guilty

Ever find yourself making up excuses to get out of things you don’t want to do, or feeling obligated to do something even though you’d rather not? Then this book is for you. Straight forward advice on how to be assertive.

The Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and Happiness

Learn how your inner chimp can sabotage your efforts in life. The first few chapters are extremely powerful if you are not aware you can control your thoughts. I’ve seen people read this and literally rid themselves of anxiety overnight.

The Greatest Salesman in the World

Warning: Do not read this put unless you are willing to commit to it for ten months. That’s how long it should take to read it. Despite it being incredibly thin, the idea is you read each chapter for 30 days, 3 times a day. If you are not willing to do this, don’t buy the book. If you are, I guarantee you life will change.

Psycho-Cybernetics, Updated and Expanded

Developing a bullet-proof self-image is crucial in life and dating. This book, originally published in the sixties is an exploration into how powerful visualisation techniques are at eliminating negative habits or beliefs, and developing skills in any area you choose.

The Power of Now

Learn to identify when you are being driven by your ego, and why this might not be helpful. As well as reading the book, listen to as many Eckhart Tolle videos as you can on YouTube. Watch this one on How to Be Yourself to get started. Learning how to access this stillness when on dates will allow your true self to come through, and help you actively listen to your date without agenda.

How to Be an Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration

A dense, insightful read on psychological and spiritual integration. Learn to work through any childhood traumas or patterns repeating in your life, and live a more authentic and real existence.

Mating in Captivity

Esther Perel is a relationship therapist who works with couples who have stopped having sex. The book explores the relationship between intimacy and desire, and what steps need to be taken when in relationships to ensure sexual desire remains present.

Interesting Reads

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

An anthropologist’s take on how human transitioned from being promiscuous to monogamous 10,000 years ago, but are still biologically wired to want multiple partners. The book has been critiqued however, so you might also want to read ‘Sex At Dusk’ before making up your mind. The book will help you understand your sex drive and why you want a variety of partners.

The Married Man Sex Life Primer 101

Even if you aren’t married, this book is a useful tool on how to deal with women in long term relationships, and the kind of mental toughness and mindsets that are required.

How to be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

Learn the five A’s of a solid relationship. Even if you are dating there is a ton of useful information in this book. But read ‘How to Be an Adult’ (listed above) before you dive into this one. Probably most useful for someone already in a relationship, or whose relationships continually fail.