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Are Humans Designed to be Sexual Omnivores?

Christopher Ryan is the author of Sex at Dawn, a book investigating the evolution of mating strategies of men and women.

In 2013 he gave a TED talk entitled ‘Are We Designed to Be Sexual Omnivores‘, embedded below.

In the talk he argues the classic oppositional monogamous relationship model, where women promise fidelity and in return men provide safety and shelter, is a relatively recent invention, beginning around 10,000 years ago due to advancements in agriculture.

In the 200,000 years prior we lived in hunter gatherer groups, where overlapping sexual relationships were a more successful mating strategy to ensure survival of the tribe. (more…)

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8 Pieces of Dating Widsom I Agree With

I’m always weary of dating articles. Many are written by people with no real-world experience, re-hashing the same old advice that has been around for years, doesn’t work, and is too abstract to put into practise.

So when I stumbled across an article written by The Unknown Don on SoSuave.com titled ‘Sharing 25 Years of Dating Wisdom‘ I read with interest. I was delighted to see such a rock solid list of sage dating advice, written by someone who is older, and clearly knows what it takes to be successful with women.

I highly encourage you to read the entire list of 33 points, but wanted to comment on those that resonate strongly with me, my methods of coaching, and what have had the greatest impact on my success with women. (more…)

The Three Types of Men in Her World

Women classify men into three categories: Friend, Boyfriend, and Lover.

Imagine three concentric circles, like an archery target. The Largest circle represents the Friend zone, the middle circle the Boyfriend zone, and the inner circle the Lover zone.

archery-targetThe Friend zone holds all men with whom she has no sexual attraction. These can be close friends, colleagues, or acquaintances. She in no way gets excited, aroused or turned on in their presence.

The Boyfriend zone contains either a current boyfriend (in a typical monogamous relationship) or men she’s met who are potential boyfriends.

The final circle, containing just one or two men, is the Lover zone. This area is reserved for the guy who does not have the right qualities to be a boyfriend, but turns her on at a primal level, and she is having sex with.

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Improve Your Dating By Shifting Your Viewpoint

Last night I went to a guided meditation.

I’m no stranger to meditation. I’ve dabbled in the past with floatation tanks, attended a one day mindfullness workshops, listened to binaural beats audio tracks, and completed a practitioner course in Reiki (although acknowledge any benefits are due to the Placebo Effect).

I believe in the power of meditation to relax, let go and de-stress.

But when people try and explain how such things work by talking about chakras, energy flows, or other mystical talk, my skeptical mind is activated.

The leader of the guided meditation began with a 15 minute pseudo-science talk about how it worked, enthusiastically pointing to an artistically drawn, medically accurate outline of a human body, with colourful energy lines running through it.

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Why You Shouldn’t Buy Her A First Date Gift

A female friend once told me a story about a first date with a guy she met online.

He stood waiting outside a bar as she approached him. From a distance she immediately knew he wasn’t her type.

He was dressed in the most unfashionable, mish-mashed outfit possible. It appeared as though he had rampaged through a charity shop for middle aged men and grabbed the brightest coloured garments he could find.

(Take note, fashion can be an instant attraction killer and sink your chances before the date has even begun)

She walked up to him and he introduced himself. His voice was high and raspy, the kind everyone puts on when impersonating an uber-geek.

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How to Have a Successful First Date: A Blueprint

I’m going to share with you my secrets for having a successful first date every time you meet a women.

The first date is about getting her attracted to you, and making sure you are attracted to her. It is at that moment she will categorise you as No, Provider or Lover. And if you’ve read anything on this site before, you’ll know I always advocate being the Lover first. It makes second date sex easy and grants you access behind the curtain.

A successful first date is about SIMPLICITY.

It’s about you and her in an environment where you can TALK to each other. It is not about elaborate displays of romance or going on wild crazy adventures.

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How to Create a Hotel Bed Experience in Your Own Home and Have More Sex

Have you ever walked into the bedroom of a five star hotel and instantly been drawn to the bed?

The kind of bed you want to rub your hands across and feel how silky and soft the sheets are. The kind of bed you want to jump in to in a heartbeat. The kind of bed you would fall asleep in five minutes flat if you were left alone. The kind of bed that conjures up images of high end luxury living and a lifestyle of wealth and success.

The more accurately you can recreate this feeling for the women you are dating, the more likely they are to want to return time and again, resulting in more and better sex for you.

A good looking bedroom, and in particular a sumptuous and comfortable bed with high quality bedding is a guilty pleasure, and something younger women (in the under 25 age group) may not have had the luxury of experiencing.

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