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How to Reframe for Success at Social Events

I got home from the gym today and stepped into the shower and realised my boiler had broken and the water was absolutely freezing. At that point I had two choices.

I could either take that as a negative experience and let that experience ruin my whole day or I could say to myself, “You know what? This is a challenge. I’m going to get into this water no matter how cold it is and see if I can have a shower in the cold.”

What does this have to do with becoming the most interesting person in the room or the most memorable person in the room? (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: No You Are!

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is No You Are!?

The No You Are! technique is a way of being more playful in conversations. When your flirting partner makes a statement about you, immediately return it to them by saying “No you are!”. (more…)

How to Structure Flirting in a Conversation (Heartbeat Method)

Below is a transcript of the video.

In this video I’d love to share with you my technique for structuring a conversation when you meet someone that you want to flirt with.

Firstly, I’m going to show you 2 ways in which people go wrong when they’re trying to flirt in a conversation. Here is my amazingly hand-drawn diagram. As you see, it’s perfect!

We’ve got 2 areas. The first at the top is when you are flirting with someone and at the bottom is when you are talking normally to them in a normal, casual conversation. The kind of way you talk to your mum and your dad, your friends, your family, someone you’ve just met. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Secret Love

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is The Secret Love?

The Secret Love is a flirting technique where you exaggerating a mundane activity someone had to do and pretend they are obsessed by it and love doing it.

Your flirtee mentions he or she had to complete a mundane task recent, and describes it to you. You seize the opportunity to rib them a little, and try and get them to admit that it is actually there favourite hobby, and they actually obsessed. (more…)

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How to Achieve Anything with Less Effort

At school I took A-Level maths.

I was far from the best at the subject, and rather than having a natural talent, I had to put in the hours to achieve good grades.

Often I would remain up late, wrestling with a particularly fiendish homework question set by my teacher, one where the answer just wasn’t obvious to me.

No matter how hard I stared at the puzzle, and how many times I attempted to solve it, I could not.

After giving up and heading to bed, I awoke the next day to attempt the problem once again.

Something had changed. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Competition

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

The Competition is a flirting technique where you explore an imaginary scenario in which you compete with your date for victory.

What is The Competition?

You make up a little story about yourself and your flirtee competing at an activity they enjoy, or tell you they are good at. You can either be in competition against each other, or compete as a team to defeat other opponents. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Perv Callout

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

The Perv Callout is a flirting technique where you call someone out for doing something that may be considered a little inappropriate.

What is the Perv Callout?

Perv, of course, stands for pervert. With this technique you are highlighting someone’s enjoyment of the opposite sex and teasing them for it. The idea is to get them to playfully agree they are a bit of a perv or try and convince you otherwise. Either way it makes the conversation fun. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Sexy Thought Bubble

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

The Sexy Thought Bubble is a way of introducing a sexual element into any conversation.

What is the Sexy Thought Bubble?

The technique is pretending you have become distracted from the conversation by a sexy mental image involving them that has spontaneously popped into your head, caused by something they said.

This is not the same as innuendo. Innuendo is when someone says something that hints at sex. Here, the person is making a perfectly, non-sexual statement, but you are turning it sexual. (more…)

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How to Hold Conversation Like a Man by Nick Sparks

I can’t emphasis enough how being good at conversation is essential when dating and attracting women.

Too many guys are still out there still try to hard to impress, or brag, rather than making the conversation a two way dialogue.

The video below is of Nick Sparks, a dating coach who I admittedly had not heard about until today. But watching his video it’s clear he knows his stuff. He comes across as sincere and authentic, both qualities I look for in anyone I take advice from. (more…)

Once upon a time

Never Interrupt a Story

I was sitting in a restaurant with a friend and her two male ex-housemates.

One of the housemates, an excitable Australian, had many amusing stories to tell.

After rattling off several at length, speaking for the first 20 minutes I arrived, I began to tire of his voice.

Don’t get me wrong, he’s a lovely guy.

But he wasn’t projecting his voice, and I struggled to hear him above the din of the wooden clad restaurant in which we sat. As a result I was forced to nod politely along with the ebbs and flows of the narrative, despite only catching a few words here and there. (more…)