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How to Have a Successful First Date: A Blueprint

I’m going to share with you my secrets for having a successful first date every time you meet a women.

The first date is about getting her attracted to you, and making sure you are attracted to her. It is at that moment she will categorise you as No, Provider or Lover. And if you’ve read anything on this site before, you’ll know I always advocate being the Lover first. It makes second date sex easy and grants you access behind the curtain.

A successful first date is about SIMPLICITY.

It’s about you and her in an environment where you can TALK to each other. It is not about elaborate displays of romance or going on wild crazy adventures.


How to Create a Hotel Bed Experience in Your Own Home and Have More Sex

Have you ever walked into the bedroom of a five star hotel and instantly been drawn to the bed?

The kind of bed you want to rub your hands across and feel how silky and soft the sheets are. The kind of bed you want to jump in to in a heartbeat. The kind of bed you would fall asleep in five minutes flat if you were left alone. The kind of bed that conjures up images of high end luxury living and a lifestyle of wealth and success.

The more accurately you can recreate this feeling for the women you are dating, the more likely they are to want to return time and again, resulting in more and better sex for you.

A good looking bedroom, and in particular a sumptuous and comfortable bed with high quality bedding is a guilty pleasure, and something younger women (in the under 25 age group) may not have had the luxury of experiencing.


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How to Prepare for a First Date

You’ve matched with the most beautiful women you’ve ever seen via online dating, followed the online to offline sequence, won her over, and got her to agree to a first date. Only three hours remain until you meet and your heart is pounding like you’ve just tried Tabata training for the first time.

What now!?

I’m a very detailed orientated and systematic guy. I like a good checklist, and I like getting into a routine. Having a process to go through before you go on a date is a good idea to calm your nerves and ensure you are in a good frame of mind when you meet.

It needn’t be a complicated or fancy routine. You might even get it down to 10 minutes. But it IS important that you do follow the same process each and every time in order to maximise your chances of success with the girl.


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The Benefits of Being Sexual on a First Date

As part of my university degree I had to spend time in the chemistry lab. I didn’t particularly like chemistry, but luckily was assigned an attractive female lab partner who worked alongside me.

I wasn’t so shy that I didn’t know how to interact with women. In fact, I was almost too good at talking to them. I made several female friends over my time at university, and the majority of my friends now are women.

My lab partner was no exception. We regularly joked and laughed together whilst performing the experiments. Little did she know I wanted to perform some experiments with her in the bedroom!


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Date Analysis: The Slow Mover

I was recently out in a South West London bar for a friend’s birthday. It was a compact venue, with approximately 10 small round tables, 5 on each side of the room, and leather seating running down both edges of the rectangular space.

When I arrived just before 7pm I immediately noticed it had a ‘date’ vibe. It was intimate, quiet and a little quirky. All good things for a first date. Three dates were already in progress, each couple talking to their respective partners. All three of the girls were good looking blondes. I took a seat on the leather sofa opposite the couples and started chatting to my friend.


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How to Transition From Online Chat to a First Date

Back in 2007 I had my first experience of online dating. I signed up to Match, Plenty Of Fish and eHarmony. Tinder, Happn and these other fancy apps hadn’t been invented.

In fact, apps weren’t even around then!

After completing my profile I sat back and waited for the messages to come pouring in.

They didn’t. Not a single message.

I’m not the best looking guy, but I can scrub up, my profile had a couple of nice photos, highlighted my good qualities, and was free from spelling mistakes.

But still nothing.