How well do you listen?
An odd question to put on a website about dating. But I am going to argue that listening is THE best way to build an emotional connection with someone.
I was at a dinner for around 30 people and I was sat next to a woman who I’d just met. Over the space of about an hour we talked together about life, work, and the past.
I didn’t do or say anything remarkable.
I didn’t use any pickup lines or techniques.
I just listened carefully and was curious about her.
She did the same to me.
After the meal the whole group moved on to a bar for more drinks. The woman I had been talking to came up to me and said she felt a strong connection to me. I felt it too.
This wasn’t a lustful, passionate connection.
It’s foundations weren’t physical attraction (although no doubt that helped). This was a knowing, caring connection, one which no doubt could have transformed into a relationship should either of us have wanted. (more…)