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The Art of Listening to Build a Strong Emotional Connection

How well do you listen?

An odd question to put on a website about dating. But I am going to argue that listening is THE best way to build an emotional connection with someone.

I was at a dinner for around 30 people and I was sat next to a woman who I’d just met. Over the space of about an hour we talked together about life, work, and the past.

I didn’t do or say anything remarkable.

I didn’t use any pickup lines or techniques.

I just listened carefully and was curious about her.

She did the same to me.

After the meal the whole group moved on to a bar for more drinks. The woman I had been talking to came up to me and said she felt a strong connection to me. I felt it too.

This wasn’t a lustful, passionate connection.

It’s foundations weren’t physical attraction (although no doubt that helped). This was a knowing, caring connection, one which no doubt could have transformed into a relationship should either of us have wanted. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: Coupled Up Projection

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is the Coupled Up Projection

Coming up with a wild scenario featuring the two of you in an outlandish situation in the future, where you are together and conquering the world. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: Playing Dumb

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is Playing Dumb

Playing Dump is a flirting tactic in which you deliberately act shocked, surprised or aghast when someone explains something to you that is basic or obvious. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Tongue Poke

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is The Tongue Poke?

The Tongue Poke is a tongue-in-cheek (well, technically a tongue-out-of-cheek) facial gesture which can be used to flirt. Quite simply you stick the tip of your tongue out of your mouth a centimeter or two. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: No You Are!

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is No You Are!?

The No You Are! technique is a way of being more playful in conversations. When your flirting partner makes a statement about you, immediately return it to them by saying “No you are!”. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Secret Love

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

What is The Secret Love?

The Secret Love is a flirting technique where you exaggerating a mundane activity someone had to do and pretend they are obsessed by it and love doing it.

Your flirtee mentions he or she had to complete a mundane task recent, and describes it to you. You seize the opportunity to rib them a little, and try and get them to admit that it is actually there favourite hobby, and they actually obsessed. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Competition

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

The Competition is a flirting technique where you explore an imaginary scenario in which you compete with your date for victory.

What is The Competition?

You make up a little story about yourself and your flirtee competing at an activity they enjoy, or tell you they are good at. You can either be in competition against each other, or compete as a team to defeat other opponents. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Perv Callout

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

The Perv Callout is a flirting technique where you call someone out for doing something that may be considered a little inappropriate.

What is the Perv Callout?

Perv, of course, stands for pervert. With this technique you are highlighting someone’s enjoyment of the opposite sex and teasing them for it. The idea is to get them to playfully agree they are a bit of a perv or try and convince you otherwise. Either way it makes the conversation fun. (more…)

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Flirty Conversation Series: The Sexy Thought Bubble

Flirty Conversation Series

This article is part of the Flirty Conversation Series, designed to teach you techniques for flirting successfully with anyone you talk to. This series is written to help men and women. He/She pronouns are interchangeable, and often one is chosen purely for simplicity of writing.

The Sexy Thought Bubble is a way of introducing a sexual element into any conversation.

What is the Sexy Thought Bubble?

The technique is pretending you have become distracted from the conversation by a sexy mental image involving them that has spontaneously popped into your head, caused by something they said.

This is not the same as innuendo. Innuendo is when someone says something that hints at sex. Here, the person is making a perfectly, non-sexual statement, but you are turning it sexual. (more…)

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How to Hold Conversation Like a Man by Nick Sparks

I can’t emphasis enough how being good at conversation is essential when dating and attracting women.

Too many guys are still out there still try to hard to impress, or brag, rather than making the conversation a two way dialogue.

The video below is of Nick Sparks, a dating coach who I admittedly had not heard about until today. But watching his video it’s clear he knows his stuff. He comes across as sincere and authentic, both qualities I look for in anyone I take advice from. (more…)